Ask – Coming Out to Mentors

pastelgray asked:

hi, lesbian lead student again ! we’ve had two gay lead students in the past three years and from what I’ve seen its been okay,I guess the main question is how I’d go about it? come out all at once to everyone? slowly just start coming out one by one?

Hello! It’s great that you already have had out members of the team. Personally, I find that even after coming out publicly, to everyone, there are often still people who didn’t hear or don’t quite understand. Coming out is usually never a one time thing, and you’ll probably have to come out again and again as new people enter your life or as you find yourself in new situations.

It’s up to you. If you prefer coming out all at once, you should still expect questions. Coming out to people individually is also a more personal experience, so depending on how close you are with the person, the more or less awkward the conversation goes.

A personal favorite: “Nose goes, you’re gay.” (Wait for everyone to touch their nose and then say “well I have some news for you guys…”)

~Staff: Sean 5113